Something nice about Valentine's day...

I have always been way too practical and logical about everything. When it comes to celebrating Valentine's day, I had the age old approach to it which explains how it's irrelevant to celebrate this day. You know, the entire - "if you love someone, you love the person everyday, why need a specific day to celebrate it?"

Well, I think I finally have an answer. Celebrate this day, because in an entire year, you deserve to have one day, where you can say, "to hell with the rest of the world, this day is about the one I love."

That's it. You don't have that approach towards love in the rest of 364 days of the year. People, society, office, responsibilities...etc. will surely take enough energy out of you to be that open about your feelings. Life is exhausting. Therefore, it's really great that one single day, you tend to forget everything, keep everything aside and dedicate it to your feelings for someone.

This day is nothing but a break. I think it's nice.

:)

"I am over you."

Ever heard of the phenomenon,'Closure'? It's supposed to have different interpretations. I recently learnt,to be happy one has to know how to put a closure to things. i.e. Get over things. Get over people who let you down, get over episodes and events that bog you down, get over feeling etc.

I am a clingy person. I cling to things. To people, to events, to truth, to values. I get too attached. I work very hard to maintain what I have. It's the most unhealthy principle you can load yourself with.

It's easier to get over issues, it's difficult to get over people. Atleast for me, it's been absolutely impossible to forgive or forget people who let me down.

However, no point in feeling hurt. If someone hurts you or lets you down, it's because he/she didn't care enough. Yes, it is THAT simple.

So what do we do to let it go? As Rachel says it in FRIENDS, you get a closure when you do something that helps you finally say, "I am over you."

But we tend to never do it. Our faith in that person or ourselves makes us believe that it could never go wrong. That's when we tend to go in the denial mode. That's when we start getting angry and vengeful. That's when we get hurt.

All I am saying is, be real. Accept that you're not the most important of all for anybody. If you're lucky enough, you will have a person who will stand by you for your entire life, else, just live with the fact, that you expected too much. The moment you decide to stop expecting from that person or situation, you take control of your life all over again.

Next time, you get hurt or betrayed, be proud of the fact that atleast you were the one giving flawless love and attention to someone. It's only because you cared too much and trusted blindly, that the other person was able to break your faith. If you cling on to it, you're giving him the attention that he doesn't deserve.

Finally, just let it be. Things happen. Try to forget. If that's not possible, just leave it behind.

Move on, because even if you decide not to, life will!