The doors, the hallways and "Suruchi is back to blogging".

It's been almost a year since I wrote something here. I've missed writing. Today I read my own blog and the first thing I realized was how inflicted such agonizing gyaan upon you guys all the time, and you all still read my blog. Respect! (BTW I love you a lot more when you comment on my blog posts. Really.)

I read my last post, where I said I wanted to move on from my life then and was hopeful of a change. Guess what? It didn't really go that way. Instead of moving forward with my life, I remained stuck. Or worse, I even went backwards at times. So here I am, shouting out loud, that life really SUUUUUCKED the whole of last year. It was a phase rocky as hell, and it ended on a worse note! 

(Of course you all knew I wasn't fine. I wasn't calling you, forwarding irritating messages, disturbing your inner peace as much as possible and poking you on social media sites to like my photos, albums and comments. See! THAT'S the extent to which things went wrong. I went quiet! But don't continue with your hope, I might be returning back to normal. I am just saying...your Utopian comfortable life had to end eventually!)

Having said that, there is such a wonderful ring to that sentence where I said that the phase ended on a worse note. Simply because there is a term in it that stands as a solution to the entire problem - "Ended". 

An end always is followed with a new beginning. You might not be able to see or experience that new beginning for quite some time. But the moment you finish the ongoing phase, you give a chance to the universe to present you the next plan that is in stores for you. How pleasant, how optimistic and how very re-assuring! *Applause* 

Keeping the sunny, optimistic banter aside, we all need to have a reality check in place. Ending things is in your hands. But ending it right, is what matters. Having a new beginning is something you must wait for, but letting the right beginning happen to you, is what will work. 

Putting it across by saying, "When one door shuts, another opens" is 'ideal, butter scotch' smooooooth! (Oh yeah, I love butter scotch ice cream more than I love chocolate.) But then, the real life comes with long waiting periods in the hallways. You will end up realizing that the hallway is a suffocating place. You will get lured into entering any door that opens up for you, just to escape that area where walls seem to be closing in on you all the time. You might stand there and keep wondering if a door will ever open up. In this situation, it's also possible that you would start knocking on that door which shut behind you and try going back in because it was a familiar place to be in. Man these hallways are a bitch! 

That's why, the moment that door shuts, lock it from your side and throw away the keys. That's the only way to put an end to something: Never looking back. When waiting in the hall way, you will get lonely. Don't feel afraid of the dark, just pick up the phone and ask your friends to come and give you company as you wait. When the doors start opening, take your time to evaluate. About wondering whether the right door will ever open or not...you're expecting too  much...few things just don't have a solution. Reality can be nasty, suck it up.

To make your waiting periods less cumbersome, enter the hallways clutter free. Make sure your exit from that door was free of guilt, frustrations and unfinished business. Else it will get lonely, hopeless, desperate and quite frankly, you won't be able to handle it. 

I have been in this hall way for quite some time now. And I am glad I didn't go for any of the wrong doors which opened up for me. I am happy I could eventually lock the door which had shut behind me and I am satisfied that I stand here having committed no wrong, having no burdens on my mind. (As you read this, imagining my solemn, smiling face with that angelic halo over my head might make this gibber gabber far too appealing!) 

All said and done, now that I am here, I have had this enlightening moment. I introspected and realized how I could just get inspired by the bashing life gives me. I can help my fellow beings. (My blog reaches 500 FB friends and about 20 something of those who stay online on gtalk.) I can write about these high-end, spiritual as well as practical (Yeah, I can say that, IT'S MY BLOG!) thoughts and learning...and put them all here in this blog. All I need to do next is, send this link to all of you, request (not pester) you to read it, and then humbly await your opinion.(No threats this time, really.)

The End, and a Beginning.

The year 2011 has finally come to an end.

I have been waiting for this, not because my times will change overnight or life will be brand new again. But I wanted this day to come, because a New Year brings with it a feeling...of an end, and a beginning.

The year 2011 brought about changes in my life that I could have not imagined, or wanted. Harsh decisions, unwanted struggle, and a string of complications which I could never see myself facing, the year wasn't the best times I have faced. 

And when things go wrong, you really aren't at your sensible best. You tend to go weak. You tend to avoid confrontations, avoid the bad situations, avoid truth. You need a strong provocation to get back on your feet, get sensible, and ready to face the challenges again.

And that's why the onset of The New Year is special. It brings me to a place, where I stand and look back and introspect. I want to see what went wrong, analyze why it went wrong and figure out what I need to do. I want to put a closure to things that I don't wish to carry on with me. I want to lighten the burden on my mind and want to figure a way out for as many problems as I can, before I step into the new year. I like the feeling of closing all the open items, and keeping them aside, forever. 

This time of the year, brings hope. Of change, of leaving behind the things and moving ahead, of doing something to sort yourself out.

My problems are still there, but as the year changes at this hour, I feel, perhaps I will be able to put the bad times behind. I will be able to move on. I will be able to figure out a way, and become a better, stronger person.

On that note, Cheers to HOPE. :)

Friendship Day

I don't know if I ever can write a dedicated post on Friendship Day without using all the possible cliches that take rounds about Friends and Friendship. And still, here I am, writing down my thoughts because when it comes to my Friends, I wouldn't want to miss out on any chance to tell them just how AWESOME they all are! :)

Friendship Day overwhelms me. Because I am one of those lucky ones who knows what it feels like to be taken care of all the time, to be pampered all the time, to have a support system which has a 24x7 call service, where I can simply dial in and get cheered up in the worst times of my life. I have friends who listen to me, who talk to me, who fight with me, who take care of me, who pray for me and who want the best for me.

Yes, my friends are my pride, my strength and one of the reasons I can pull off a big smile on my face anytime. I feel blessed.

Happy Friendship Day to one and all. I hope all of you get friends as awesome as I do. More importantly I hope I can be as good a friend to them as they are / have been to me! :) :) :) 

Stories

There is a reason why they keep talking about living up each and every moment of your life. If life is a book, it's pages are filled with unfinished stories. Take a look yourself, so many people who came into your life, with who you spent the most wonderful times and who seemed such an important part of you and your routine then, are not with you anymore. And it's not because something went bad. It's just because life keeps moving on. The only thing that stays with you about them are their memories.

And that's why, never stop making memories. Meet people, share that part of your life with them, believe in them and totally live those times with them. You never know where that one friend of yours will be after some time.

We tend to focus only on the main and big story of our life. What's my career like, what's my love life like, what's my future like. While worrying about ourselves, we tend to consider all the other people as side characters. Which is so unfair. We should give importance to each and every chapter that we live. Every story and character is important. Few will remain till the end, few will give a special appearance and leave. But each and every one will add some meaning to your life story.

Circumstances and people change all the time. And a lot of stories will remain unfinished for you. Make sure those stories, even if unfinished, end up making you feel alive, and complete. :)

Love yourself!

We all live in a society, with people. However, the same society only believes in bringing us down. If we think about it, how many times has this society really inspired us, made us feel great about ourselves, or given us that much needed motivation and support to do something great with our lives? Whenever we have decided on anything, we've only come across hurdles. One brave decision from your end and you see a stream of neighbors, relatives and acquaintances judging you and making life really blissful! Filmy, but true. World is a cruel place. Therefore, it really strikes a chord with me when Barney Stinson says: "When I get sad, I stop being sad and be awesome instead."

One must learn how to appreciate, respect and love oneself. Love that person you are. Be in charge       of your emotions. Pamper your mind and heart. It's okay, we all go through trials and tribulations of life. But don't kill yourself for them. Phases come and go, people come and go, you win some, you lose some. The least you can do is be nice to yourself. It's a difficult task to be in control of your thoughts and emotions, but those who have learned it, will know, how special a gift it has been for them. 

Doesn't mean you should restrict yourself. If happy, dance...if sad, cry! But there has to be an extent to which you should put your mind and soul through negativity. Take your time to get over the severe blows that life gives you, but keep trying to come out of them. Only you can take care of yourself, no will else is going to do that for you. Your friends, family and life partner will be there, but how much can you depend on others for feeling right? Too much dependability only makes you weaker. Cherish those relationships you have, they are God's gifts. But learn to live without them too. Learn to be happy with yourself and keep trying to make yourself better and stronger. This world likes to be with the confident and self made ones.

And anyway, how much of load are you willing to dump on your mind? After all, out of those people you cherish right now, only 15 percent will live up to your expectations. The remaining 85 percent are going to break your heart, betray you, or leave you unsettled. Are you ready for that? You do that math! :)

Clouds

I see clouds, and yes, it shall rain soon. Very very soon.

Thinking basics.

We humans, as a breed, are captives of our own thoughts. Be it wishing for something, anticipating something or crying over something. We all are so used to letting these thoughts take over our mind.  

Don't get me wrong, thinking isn't bad. It keeps us looking forward to things. But there's a difference between wasting your mind space in irrelevant thoughts and  presiding over the relevant ones. And often the rare right ones get overshadowed by the thousands of wrong ones in that space. That's where it becomes important to declutter your mind.

Easier said than done, I know. But then certain approaches might help you. For eg. most of our time is spent in yearning for something or the other. Our aspirations, wishes etc. take a toll over our minds. We pray for them to happen, we get scared in anticipation of results, and then we cry about them if they don't.


However, a different outlook towards it can work it out.  If you KNOW that fulfilling your wish is beyond your capacity, just let it be. Pray for it, hope for the best, but let it be. Because, no matter how much you worry about it, it will happen in its own time, in its own way. On the other hand, if you think you can do something about it, then START DOING it. Act on it. This way, you will know why it happen, whatever happened. Atleast you won't end up being in a clutter of confused thoughts which actually belong nowhere.

Another major torture that we inflict upon our mind - Baggages. We all have them, but it's upto us to decide how long we want to carry them. Stop your mind from thinking about things over and over again. Control your thoughts. Refuse to think about negative things whenever they come to your mind to haunt you. Distract yourself. Keep yourself busy. Or simply speak to yourself and ask those thoughts to get lost-OUT LOUD! It works. Really.

I am not asking to devoid yourself of emotions. It's all okay. We all got to live afterall. We all ought to feel, love, hate, get annoyed, get angry all the time. We're human. But we can surely decide 'Enough is enough' at some point. Afterall why to scar our mind and soul with impressions which won't even matter to you?


Once you're there, in control of your thoughts, you will find newer realms where your mind would like to wander albeit in a constructive way. When I got this advice, I found it the most difficult thing to follow, for 2 weeks. Once achieved, it's the most soothing state of mind you can be in. I hope this post actually helps whoever finds it relevant. Those who didn't find it relevant, just ask your best friends if they think you need to consider it. Afterall they are the ones who've been listening to you cribbing and whining all along. ;)

Peace. :)